Whether it's a chat room or a physical one, word spreads fast. In a sea of fives, sevens, and perfect tens, how do some women distinguish themselves so absolutely? How do you know who is the baddest? How do you know who isn't? How should a man approach?
I'm so glad you asked… let's begin.
ATTITUDE
Off the top of your head, name as many supermodels as you can and picture them all in a room. Then add Rihanna to that room. Who is the baddest? Try Angelina Jolie... Charlize Theron, Lori Harvey, Lauren London, Zendaya or India Love. In many cases, the former take it, and not just because of their aesthetic. It's largely because of their persona and it radiates from their eyes. Those same supermodels may find themselves channeling their inner version of these women, because of the intangible "it" factor they believe they possess. But it's not a mystery.
The baddest convey a subtle boldness that occasionally crosses the line of edgy into brazen defiance. While some play coy, pretending the focus on them is an aberration, the baddest do the exact opposite. They know the idea of them is just as alluring as their physical presence, and have no problem revealing the gap in thought, access, appearance and desire between them and everyone else. It's more than a mood, it's a whole attitude.
CONFIDENCE
Now that you imagined those women with other highly attractive people, put them in another room with reasonably-attractive ones. Although their actions may not change in the slightest, those of everyone around them can range from extremely anti-social to gratuitously outrageous, just because of who they are. This is the reality and default state of mind for the baddest in the room, even around highly attractive people. Why? Nothing brings out insecurity like a certified baddie who knows they are a certified baddie.
This erratic behavior comes from both sexes in an attempt to gain attention or divert it from where it will ultimately go, should the baddest desire it. Humans are competitive creatures by nature, but when you don't feel threatened a certain nonchalance emerges. This indifference is almost synonymous with the baddest, and they often amuse themselves while others do the most before them. Should they decide to break the internet, it's done swiftly and unanimously. The unwavering conviction that they can and will do just that (at any given time) intimidates and exposes those who don't believe they are intrinsically valuable... and the cycle repeats itself over and over again.
THE EXTREMELY INSECURE MAN
The man with very low self-esteem should make his interactions with the baddest as short and brief as possible. Not because of the baddest specifically, but due to more secure men frequently using them to show dominance and higher status... ultimately embarrassing all the men involved.
THE INSECURE MAN
The insecure man should probably keep his distance as well. Unfortunately, he can't handle her nor the spotlight she brings. He won’t rest until he’s made a fool of himself, trying to please what he thinks will make her happy. On the low end, it's unfounded aggressiveness and on the high end, it's excessive spending. Both may evoke a flash of amusement for a time, but will quickly turn into repulsion.
THE CONFIDENT MAN
If any man says he isn't more self-conscious around the baddest woman in the room, he is a liar (and don't believe a word he says). It's not just the interaction with her that comes to mind, it's the audience as well. All but your true friends are waiting for you to fail... miserably... and for several reasons. Other men undoubtedly want her and are ready to use your misstep as a line to get in. If you're attractive, the other women who want you (maybe even friends of the baddest) don't want her to have the pick of the lot... again. On top of that, much like videos of brave stunts gone wrong - it is quite amusing for onlookers to watch men shoot their shot in vain. No show is more entertaining than an increasingly awkward and harsh curve from the baddest in the room.
So with that being said, forget about all that I just said... and also forget about her shooting half court shots at you. We are talking about the baddest, not the friend of the baddest, or the cousin of the baddest. We are talking about the most desired person in a particular area - where normally sensible people are doing THE utmost to get her attention. She's not on another level than you are. You just have to understand that playing it so cool that you don't ever speak to her, or even worse attempt to neg her, isn't a winning strategy. I wouldn't pound on excessive compliments either, the less obvious and frequent the better.
Quite simply, if you want the baddest you have to be impressive, which shouldn't be confused with the excessive.
Think about the women mentioned. Who have they dated? People who can just as easily command a room just as easily as they can right? The concept of A-Game is often lost with this too cool for school generation, but there are some who you will have to work for, and the baddest does require some work (sorry to burst your bubble). This isn't work as in, ingratiating yourself to her, but setting yourself apart from the rest of the crowd in a profound way instead of the clown way (showing substance).
People always say be yourself and you should always do that, but you should lead with your best-self and double down on your strengths. If you can dance, dance. If you can sing, sing. If you are incredibly smart, say something incredibly witty. If you do these things in an appropriate setting and get no response, she has bad taste and it isn't meant to be anyway... because if you are really good everyone else's eyes will be on you. Those who can steal the show without being a buffoon, have a clear path to the baddest in the room. It's less about money, charm, and more about greatness. If you cannot call upon yours at any given moment, how will you be able to walk with someone who sees elaborate performances everywhere they go?
There is no shame in coming all the way correct for the baddest in the room, I'll even say it's a prerequisite. Once you find out who they are, introduce them to the most interesting man in the room… you.