I know, this is not your average how-to. It may be hard for some to fathom, but men have to deal with desirable women who just don't make the cut. Sometimes it's their personality, other times you're just more interested in someone else. Whatever it is, it's making for an interesting problem. Since plenty want them, they assume that you do as well. Now, you're treading a fine line with their ego, trying your hardest to avoid a spontaneous "BF" (see Mean Girls). If you're one of those guys dealing with this, we feel your pain. Grab a seat and listen up.
Treat Her Like One of the Guys
If at all costs, the goal is not to make the girl hate you. Obviously, you have spent some time for them to become attracted to you, and you may actually enjoy their company. Here are some subtle ways to let her know that you are still looking.
Stop paying for things - To these girls, this will be like cold water on a light sleeper. If she keeps asking you for lunch and making dinner plans reinforce how "friendly" things are by going...Dutch.
Dress down around her - When you are around people you are trying to impress; you take things up a notch, am I right? Well, the reverse is true as well. Even if you're going out, dress a little more comfortably than is expected.
Talk about other people - Ask her opinion about girls you are interested in and suggest guys you think she should get to know. Only a dick would embarrass her by flaunting other women in her face, so it should not be one-sided. Let her know that you are thinking of what she may want as well.
When She Gets Touchy
Nothing is more unnerving to men than unwanted PDA. Not only does it make us uncomfortable, it makes us look like the bad guy when we decline it. Below are some tricks of the trade to get out of some sticky situations
Holding Hands - The best thing is "The Abrupt Phone Call". Stop, pretend to be very concerned with the imaginary caller's situation, motion for her to keep going, and then walk back to her with the phone in hand. The hand closest to her should always have the phone in it. And yes, if you have to switch hands, do it.
Unwanted Grinding - Unlike us, women aren't accustomed to being turned down on the dance floor; stopping while they're attempting to back it up on you will most likely crush her. Take control. Deny her the grind but dance playfully with her face-to-face. This is crucial if the girl you are trying to dance with is in the room. Do just enough to keep her happy, but also not enough for anyone to read into.
When She Doesn't Get the Hint
Most of the time, the above tactics are enough to keep women at bay; however, there are rare cases when they might actually fuel the fire. Women of this caliber are very aware of their assets, and when they really want a guy, they know just what to do to drop our guard. Whatever you do, don't sleep with her. Your moral credibility up to this point will be erased, and a whole other psychological battle begins. Skip all that and just stick to these two rules. Don't get drunk around her, and never stay the night. Sound simple? Well, these are the last lines of defense with these types of girls.
We all know it's pretty much over if you stay the night for whatever reason because we know at a certain time of night the man downstairs is down for just about anything, the same goes for when we are plastered. Keep your wits about you, and you'll make it out, reputation intact.